"Inviting" guys to be rude? What the heck is that...an excuse? If so, it`s quite the poor one.
In the criminal justice field that`s what we call motive for a predator.
One more reason why I believe that men and women should be required to learn how to be "ladies" and "gentlemen" before culture and locality have a chance to negatively impact the positive results that can produce.
Simply put: Guys (and gals) who act that way have no self-respect, so they can not be expected to respect others.