Hi. Sorry to hear you`ve had a bad experience on this site. I, for one, may be one you are talking about. Well, I haven`t been rude, crass or coming on to anyone, but I think I have as many female buds as male.
Personally, my explaination is simple. I referred 2 of the ladies to the site and dive with them a lot, and none of my male dive buds want to join!
Also, I respect women who participate in this sport that`s dominated by men, and want to encourage them. Since I am happily married, I think of myself as a non-threatening potential dive bud - hopefully they`d feel comfortable enough to ask, since there aren`t enough lady divers to ask.
Some ladies have pretty provocative pics, so I hope they aren`t disappointed if the guys looking for a girlfriend who dives are all over them. I might throw a (hopefully) non-offensive comment to them too, but it`s just for fun (who doesn`t like flattery? I, for one, wouldn`t mind a lady flattering me every now and again!! lol).
Anywho, I hope the experience inproves for you. If ever in Jersey, come dive with us! -AP